Expertise with Heart. Insight with Impact.


I’m Dr. John DeOca—board-certified psychiatric mental health nurse practitioner, relationship expert, and founder of The Relationship Prescriber the lifestyle blog Life with Dr. D. My work lives at the intersection of psychology, emotional healing, and human connection. Since opening my practice in 2018, I’ve helped plenty of individuals navigate the complexities of love, loss, communication, and connection across all areas of life—from dating to family estrangement to workplace conflict.
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But more than credentials and clinical experience, what guides my work is this core belief: relationships are everything—and when we heal how we relate to others, we heal how we relate to ourselves, and vice-versa.
I specialize in helping people understand the “why” beneath their emotional patterns. Why do we keep attracting the same kind of partner? Why is it so hard to set boundaries with family? Why does unresolved tension at work follow us home?
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Whether I’m counseling one-on-one, speaking on stage, writing for media, or teaching the next generation of clinicians, I bring an approach that’s thoughtful, emotionally honest, and rooted in both science and soul. Clients often tell me I blend depth with direction—introspective when needed, but not afraid to say the hard things with compassion and clarity.
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In my work and in my life, I value reflection, resilience, humor, authenticity, and hope. Healing isn't linear—but it is possible. And you're not meant to do it alone.
A FEW THINGS THAT MATTER TO ME:
Normalizing emotional expression—especially for men
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Disrupting outdated relationship myths
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Helping people let go of fear so they can move toward love
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Celebrating chosen family, identity, and authentic connection
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And yes, finding the wisdom in the breakdowns
Credentials & Features:
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Board-Certified PMHNP-BC and Nurse Coach NC-BC
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Expert Contributor to Vogue, Women’s Health, Bustle, PsychCentral, AskMen, and more
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Founder of the lifestyle blog Life with Dr. D
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Speaker, writer, and educator
